WHEN YOUR SEX LIFE STARTS SLIPPING, TRY A NEW PERSPECTIVE TO FIND AN EXHILARATING SOLUTION
With the monotony of quarantine, keeping things exciting in the bedroom can be hard. Whether you’re unable to see your beloved or run into them around every corner, it’s clear that quarantine isn’t conducive to an exhilarating sex life. But, that doesn’t always need to be the case.
The best thing you can do when bedroom life is lacking is to talk to your partner. As awkward as it sounds, communicating about what you want will help your partner understand what you’re looking for and vice versa. Hopefully, this conversation will spark some new ideas. At the very least, it will help you work out why things have been lackluster, allowing you to solve the problem together. The conversation itself might even jumpstart your solution.
Along with communication, the key to tackling this tough situation is creativity. When the bedroom gets boring, a lot of people rely on other people’s creativity to spice it up; a new toy, perhaps, or a book of daring moves. These tools are great, and they’re certainly worth a shot. But, it’s your own ideas, tailored to your relationship, that will undoubtedly unlock success. If you get hung up on the idea that you can shop your way out of a bad sex life, you’ll only spiral into an endless string of online orders that’ll leave you with a closet of paraphernalia and some embarrassing memories.
The better mentality to have here stems from the classic mantra: “It’s not about the size of the tool, but how you use it.” The way you present a new idea could be more effective than the idea itself. Maybe you do a little shopping with your partner, or maybe you keep it a surprise. It’s also important to remember just how many things you have at your disposal. A box in the mail is exciting, sure, but what about a new book? Or a show that has delicious undertones of sexual tension. You could try a game, or make one up yourself. Exploring all of your options, then all of the ways you could use those options, is where your creative mind will run wild.
This simple cycle will lead you and your partner to a more intimate relationship: Talk, Brainstorm, Experiment, Repeat. Not every idea will be stellar, but some surely will.