THE SEVERE LACK OF BODY POSITIVE MEN
Recently, a post on Reddit became Internet-famous. The user posed the question: “Why are there no plus sized or short male models?” One response read that “there are quite a lot. They’re just in ads for plus-size stores, and ads for restaurants or barbecues, not in ads for mainstream fashion.”
How often do you see female mannequins with different body types, but no differences in the male ones?
We as a society have banished the idea of body positivity for men and placed it all on women. That isn’t to say that women don’t deserve to have body positivity. However, it’s been seen time and time again that men, thought to be tougher than women, are often pushed to the side of the body positivity train.. This also isn’t to say that one is better than the other or that they are on opposing sides—they need to work together to create a unified, body-positive world.
“As a female wanting equality (while being realistic about our differences), we need to push male body positivity.”—Reddit
So many women these days are body positive and equality based, but sometimes we tend to forget men in the rush to blame the patriarchy. Men seem to be the cause of all our problems but we forget that in order for everyone to be equal, we cannot forget that men can sometimes be viewed as unequal to other men too.
There are sects of inequality within every gender. No one is equally unequal, whether that depends on your skin color, your socioeconomic background, or simply the way you look. Inequalities are everywhere and need to be avoided at all costs for feminism and the fight for equal rights to finally be achieved.
“The body positivity movement is really the female body positivity movement.”—Reddit
Women’s body positivity comes up so often in conversations. No one wants to ask a woman how much she weighs or what her dress size is. None of your friends will tell you that the new dress you just bought makes you look fat. But the second men’s body positivity comes up, all rules are out the window and feelings no longer matter.
In the fight for women to be recognized for their diversely beautiful bodies, men have been forgotten and are still struggling to be heard over the noise.
For the most part, men do not seem to care about weight and even boast when they weigh more or less than others.
HOW HAS FEMINISM AFFECTED MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH?
To go beyond the idea of men’s body positivity, ponder the idea of feelings. So often, men do not seem to want to share their feelings and they try not to be too vocal when they are in trouble. Women are the feeling ones, women are the ones allowed to cry, but not men. When men start to cry or feel as though they have been hurt emotionally, they are insulted.
Often, women want a strong male to be partners with instead of one who is unsure of himself and emotional. But by giving women the right to feel and be the emotional ones in traditional relationships, what has that left for men? To simply remain steadfast and calm in the face of troubles and to never have anything bother them? Certainly not!
We as people and a society need to embrace the world and look to bring equality to it in all sections of life. We need to work to look and respect men and their bodies and feelings just as much as we do towards women. By respecting everyone equally and allowing a totally equal playing field, we can expect a harmonious society.