LOOKING TO THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR INNER SELF
This quarantine has made us have an excuse to be isolated, whether we want to or not. Yes, we isolate from our friends and family, but we also seem to have been isolating from ourselves too. Because of the break from normal, everyday life, we have taken a break from the habits we made before the world turned upside down and suddenly we are no longer living in the world in which strong connection really exists, at least, not in the way that we are used to.
We need to understand that it’s okay that we have distanced from the people we were becoming and have changed into the people we have to be. We need to let go of who we once were and move into the new age of what we are now.
But we also need to prioritize ourselves and try to help ourselves when the world seems against us. How can we prioritize ourselves? Let’s talk about spirituality.Spirituality is proven to help mental states. Whether you define spirituality by talking to God at night or sitting on your yoga mat and focusing on your thoughts, it will help you. Spirituality can sometimes help people because they can know that they aren’t alone in the world anymore and there are bigger things than them, even in their own consciousness.
But how can we get spiritual when all our classes, churches, and gatherings are closed? I recently tried to get into church one day, and after filling out a form, giving out my personal information, and registering guest after guest, I was shoved into the smaller room in my beautiful church and had to watch the sermon on a small screen. Quarantine hasn’t made spirituality easy. I can’t remember the last time I came out of a church service not worrying about who was close to me and why people weren’t wearing their masks.
I can’t tell you the last yoga practice I’ve done, or even the last time I opened the Headspace app. Spending this time for myself helps me to realign with myself and my feelings. So many people do these practices as a way to check in on themselves and make sure that they’re helping themselves to some alone time. I haven’t been paying attention to myself because I’ve been paying too much attention to the world around me and the issues that others are dealing with. By stretching my boundaries and exerting my energy everywhere else, I usually come in the back burner and no longer have a connection with myself.
Let’s be honest, we probably all got sick of ourselves during quarantine and wanted to get away from us. When conversations with the voices in your own head are the only ones you’ve had in months, you want to create some distance between you and your mind.
But I think that, no matter what the cost, we need to slowly begin to mend the relationship we have with ourselves and work to create a good and healthy one that builds up the other again. I have a quote that I often repeat to myself when I start to get too caught up in the world around me and too little concerned with the world of me. It talks about how you shouldn’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to another. So often, we are so quick to judge ourselves and love the other. We use filters and nice voices for our friends, but greet our thoughts and decisions with harsh words and border on hatred sometimes.
As quarantine is coming to an end, it’s also time to end our social distancing from ourselves. We need to revamp our relationships and come back in love and understanding. The world is crazy and everything in 2020 seems to be turned against us. So why should we be turned against ourselves as well?