Three Reasons Why It’s Okay Not Visit Families for the Holidays
As winter approaches, so do the holidays. It’s typically the time when people visit family members or go on vacation. Unfortunately, the holiday season is a painful reminder of family situations and/or obstacles like money, sexual orientations, and toxic environments for many people.
A survey by WalletHub 2019 Winter Travel found 33 million people can’t afford winter travel. 20 million need to save money. Cost is the second leading concern for 8 in 10 winter travels. In 2020, the Bureau of Labor Statistics said that “the number of long-term unemployed (those jobless for 27 weeks or more) increased by 781,000 to 2.4 million.” Based on the survey and the rise of unemployment, it’s expected not to go home for the holidays and save money.
The Trevor Project National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health stated that more than 39 percent of LGBTQ youth in the United States “seriously considered attempting suicide in the past twelve months.” According to LGTB Health, family rejection predicted results in elevated suicide attempts and substance abuse as a coping mechanism. In general, people can’t stay where they are not wanted, and everyone deserves to feel welcome.
An article from Rainn stated that “sexual violence affects victims’ relationship with their family, friends, and co-workers.” 37 percent of sexual assault victims experience relationship problems with close family and friends. Based on the Hotline statistics, 40 percent of child abuse experienced domestic violence. For a lot of survivors of child sexual abuse, contact with family is too painful. Take Monique, a black and plus-sized woman: she was sexually assaulted by her brother and kept no contact with her brother or parents. It’s okay to cut ties with toxic family members to maintain a safe and healthy environment.
For whatever the situation you can’t go home, remember that home is where the heart is. Consider the moral that just because you can’t be with your biological family over the holidays doesn’t mean you are isolated forever. Be translucent about your state to the people you trust and love, and try to find alternative support.