Dear Lady A,
I have been single for over two years now and I am looking to get back in the dating scene. I have visited some of my local bars, lounges and frequented hang out spots for people my age (41). A friend of mine told be about how she met her boyfriend on a dating site she paid to have a subscription to. I have been thinking of creating a profile of my own and seeing how it may go. What is your view on a 41-year-old woman being on a dating site?
The Struggling Single
Dear Struggling Single,
As you know the dating scene has changed drastically and there are not too many people dating the traditional way. My view on dating sites are we are already on them and don’t know it LOL! Facebook, Instagram and Twitter to name a few have already helped in aiding lovers to finding one another over the internet. I say go for it what can it hurt. Creating a profile that specifies your interest and needs and wants and seeing who that may attract can’t hurt and actually might speed up your process to love. There are many successful relationships that come from this more direct approach and by listing the qualities you hold and what you are looking for should make for great conversation starters if you should find a match online. Be gentle with yourself have fun and sometimes your new found love may already be your friend on one of the other free social media sites I listed. Good Luck with this journey and most of all be careful and stay safe. Remember all the gold rules, never give out your home address, always meet up in a public well-lit place, and always let a friend know where you are going and who you are meeting with. Looking forward to you writing back how your journey plays out. Send me a wedding invite to your wedding
Dear Lady A,
I dated a young lady about 6 years ago and we haven’t talked in years since that breakup. Recently I ran into one of her friends that I haven’t seen in years and she informed me that her and the girl are still very close, and she has gone on to get married and have a child with her husband. After hours of sitting in the restaurant talking, we decided to exchange numbers to check in from time to time with each other. Well time to time turned into us talking every day and texting every day for hours over the last 9 months and to be honest I am really feeling this woman. We have gone out a few times to dinner and movies and themed parks and recently went on a 7-day cruise together along with other friends. It kind of seems like we are already together because of the amount of time we spend with each other and how we interact. How do I approach this situation by asking her to make it official without her seeming like she is breaking the girlfriend code with her friend?
The Ex New Boyfriend
Dear Ex New Boyfriend,
Sounds like you are sure about this one. I say there is nothing wrong with you and her dating especially if it was years ago you dated the friend. Here is the thing about the girl code there is nothing that states a time limitation on when we can date or talk to a dude our girls may have years ago. The friend has moved on and married herself so why would she despise her friend moving on and being happy? This isn’t a case where you sought out the friend maliciously and you guys are trying to hurt the ex. This sounds like two kindred spirits finally connecting and its working out. I say Go for it dude and make sure you are clear in your full intentions with the friend. Have that conversation about where you two stand and see how she feels about moving forward. I hope a love story emerges from this and I can’t wait to hear back from you.
Excited for you!