OUR WEST NEST
Every month we love to shine the spotlight on amazing bloggers making a difference in the industry. This month we shine the Luxe Blogger Spotlight on Onteria a “Motherhood and Lifestyle Blogger.
Tell us why you started the “Our West Nest” blog?
After having a baby and bringing him home, I was in complete shock. I mean, I knew that my life would change, but there are no words to describe the adjustments that must take place once you bring a person into the world. You just have to experience it and find out first hand. For a while, I was so entrenched in getting a routine in place, tending to my baby, and still trying to spend time with my husband. During all of that I temporarily forgot about who I was as a woman. I needed an outlet and set out on a journey to just write as therapy. Then I came across a motherhood and lifestyle blog after searching something online, and I thought to myself that I could do the same things. At the time, it was so far fetched because I had a 4-month old, I wasn’t sleeping, I had a full-time job, and my husband had just started traveling for work during the week. I really wanted to just quit a few times, but something within wouldn’t let me. I stuck with it and finished strong!
What makes your blog different from the rest?
I think more than anything I try to be as transparent as possible. It may be surprising, but I’m a pretty private person. Nonetheless, I still share my true experiences as a mom and wife as I move throughout my day to day also being true to who I am as a woman. I don’t know the answer to everything, and I want my audience to always chime in, let me know their experiences, and give me tips too. As women, we’re all in this together, and I want my blog to clearly message that to all my readers.
When readers visit your blog what is the one thing you want them to take away from your post?
I just hope they learn something. Whether it’s how to do simple things to spruce up and decorate your home, ways you can still spend time with your family as a working mother, to how you can still find joy and happiness if you’re parenting after loss. I just want my readers to always learn something new.
Being a mother, wife and career woman how do you find the time to fulfill your dreams of being a lifestyle blogger?
This is a totally loaded question because I’m still figuring it out LOL. For me, my focus over the last few months has just been to be consistent and make sure that I’m putting out quality content over quantity. I made a commitment that I would have a blog post ready for my readers at least once a week, and I’ve been sticking to that. What this means for me behind the scenes is that I’m on my phone working on drafting a blog throughout the week whenever I have time. When I’m in line at the grocery store, in between meetings at work, during my lunch breaks, etc. There have been many nights when my husband and son are asleep but I’m still awake getting it cracking! It’s definitely hard, but it’s what I have to do for myself to stay committed.
How important is it for any woman to have a strong support system when fulfilling their dreams?
It’s so important to have a support system of some form, and I actually just learned that this year. I’ve always been a woman to be independent and get things done on my own, and I took pride in that. Once I had a child, I realized trying to be so independent could cost me my sanity and that just isn’t where it’s at. As a matter of fact, there’s no lifetime achievement award for doing things on your own, and no shame in asking for help! My husband is the absolute best! He knows that my work as a blogger is important to me and he helps me out with everything from concepts and ideas, to taking my son on the opposite end of the house while I do my blogging work, and even taking pictures for me for hours at a time so that I get the content I want. If I didn’t have him, I don’t know what I’d do. I’d also say that for any woman that is pursuing a dream she has, when you let your true support system know that you are serious about what you want to do through your actions, you’ll see them actively support you. My husband just asked me the other day if we needed to carve out time for photos LOL!
What was your most successful/happiest moment as a blogger?
Hands down, the happiest moments for me, that I would also say are the most successful, is when I’ve had women send me messages on telling me that I inspire them, that they love my blog, and that I’m giving them a voice. To be honest, I never really thought I was that inspiring, but these messages from women confirm that for them I am! That’s why I’m doing this, and I hope that I continue to inspire women all over.
What would you say or what type of advice would you give to an aspiring blogger?
There’s lots of advice I can give but there are 3 things that come to the top of my mind:
- Find your niche and stick to it. Ideally, it should be something you know about and are equally passionate about.
- Focus on yourself and don’t compare yourself to others. You’ve got to do things at your own pace and you can’t worry about what someone else is doing.
- You’ll find an audience that loves you, as well as those that don’t like you at all. It’s ok. Just continue to be yourself!
2019 is here! What can your readers expect differently this year from your blog?
Well, I’m still a newbie so I’m learning more and more every day. One of the biggest thing I’ve learned about my audience’s perception of me is that I have great style. I’ve never considered necessarily considered myself a fashionista, but I just like to be cute LOL. In 2019, I’m going to add a style component to the blog to give my audience insight on how I easily put my looks together and let moms out there know that you can be a mom and still look good!
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