What’s your definition of being a True Plus Girl in America?
Someone who is confident and embraces their extra curves. Don’t allow society to dictate what is beautiful! We’re more than a dress size; it’s about confidence and embracing your curves.
OMG! I was filled with emotions–shocked, elated, nervous, surprised because I was the only African American in my division. I am not tall; I’m short and come off as being timid. I was unsure I would be crowned, but when I put that crown on my head I was proud!
How do you suggest others love the skin they’re in?
By not looking at social media as your definition of perfection. Of course everyone has access to Instagram and sometimes you feel you have to look as perfect as the Instagram models. God made us different for a reason. Embrace it! Love it! Accept it!
What are some battles you’ve had to overcome yourself as a plus size woman?
My biggest battles are finding clothes that fit perfectly. I’m extremely busty and call my girls “ride or die,” and they can bring bad energy from the guys. My height, based on current standards, hinders someone trying to make it in the fashion industry. I’m also from Nigeria and being plus size is unacceptable. You’re not considered sexy enough to be married.
You’ve become an advocate for domestic violence. What are a few ways someone can escape verbal and physical abuse from their partner?
Leave! That is the only way. No one should be comfortable in an environment where you are being put down mentally, emotionally and/or physically. It starts emotionally, when they stay to break you down mentally, you start questioning who you are and your self worth. If you see signs someone is making you question if you love yourself, you need to leave. Reach out to your girlfriends, a shelter, or anyone you trust. Talking about it is not a sign of weakness it’s a sign of strength.
Where did your inspiration to be a makeup artist stem from?
It came from my abusive marriage. I was in hair school and one day I came in with bruises on my face. My instructor advised me to cover it up. So, I went to Walgreens to purchase Iman because it was the only makeup that had my complexion. I received a ton of compliments and my classmates started requesting me to do their makeup. When I saw the joy on their faces, it gave me a sense of satisfaction from making someone else’s day. I enjoy enhancing other’s natural beauty.
What tips can you provide for someone who is ready to step out of their comfort zone and be bold?
Like NIKE, “just do it!” If you made the decision to step out to do more than you’ve been doing, the only thing that’s not allowing you to do it is you. Don’t let anything get in your way. Having a team is great, but you can get a lot of things done by yourself. Build your team slowly and make sure they support and believe in you!
How do the beauty standards in your native country Nigeria, differ from those of the U.S.?
Beauty in Nigeria wants you to be light, bright, thin, and flawless. Skin bleaching is extremely common. Some natives bleach until they’re green. The closer to white you are, the prettier you are–because of British colonization. Here in America, everyone is embracing their natural hair, melanin, and curves. Nigeria is a few years behind when it comes to embracing and loving themselves, unfortunately.
What’s the best way your followers can stay connected with you?
Stay connected with me via Social Media @TheRealNaijaVixen.